That Fun, Sexy, Smooth Sex Video

ANGELES CITY, PHILIPPINES — Gina Cancio made her first sex video quite late in life.  And she made the sex video for me.

I was a journalist who had just gotten a grant to do an investigative report on HIV. My research brought me to Angeles City. Department of Health (DOH) data showed that adult Disneyland Angeles City drastically curbed its HIV rates and I was there to find out why.

The League of Angeles City Entertainers and Managers (LACEM) was a group of bar managers and owners who banded together to keep the center of adult entertainment safe by conducting regular health checks and HIV tests.

As a self-regulating body, bar managers were public health officers by day and floor managers (MamaSans) at night.

It was in the LACEM office where I first met Gina. She was giving me the lowdown of how the bar girls were taught to protect themselves from sexually-transmitted infections (STIs) through condom negotiation techniques. One of these techniques was how to discreetly put on a condom with your mouth.

I couldn’t quite imagine it then and Gina, very business-like, demonstrated it for me. I was dumbfounded and asked her to repeat the demo, this time for me to take a video.

I didn’t intend to use the video as part of the report. I just wanted to take the video to show my editors–seeing is believing, right?

When I showed my editors at Newsbreak, one — Aries Rufo — thought it would make a great addition to the story package. Another, Gemma Mendoza, was understandably hesitant. We left it to our boss, Marites Vitug, to decide.

Marites gave it a go. But I first had to call Gina to ask her for permission to use the video in the story.

Safe sex video: Panalo!

“Naku, Ana, baka mabalitaan akong best blow-jobber dito sa Angeles ha!’ was Gina’s reaction. [“But Ana, I might become known as the best blow-jobber in Angeles City!”]

We both said at the same time, “At ano naman ang masama dun?!” [And what’s so bad about that?!”]

We let out a loud hearty laugh that crossed the distance between my bedroom-office in Manila and the LACEM office in Angeles.

The video went up and instantly went viral. In the era before the explosion of social media, this meant Facebook shares and people like radio DJ Chico Garcia blogging about it. Chico said the video made his day and lauded health workers like Gina for being nonchalant and progressive about condom usage.

Gina was famous as the lola who gave a badass safe sex lesson.

The HIV story series won me my first award in the Population and Development Media Awards in 2012.


I was in Angeles City recently on assignment and went to look for Mama Gina. I called her and was happy that she still remembered me. She told me to drop by the bar anytime in the afternoon when business was still slow.

It took my eyes a minute to adjust from the stark white sunny afternoon to the dim reddish-orange lights of the bar. I found Mama Gina scrunched over a table going over paperwork, tuning out the blaring music and the mix and tumble of men and girls milling about.

Gina didn’t see me come in. I went up to her and wordlessly put my hand on her arm.

She looked up and we hugged each other tightly.

Me and My Mama Gina

Me and Mama Gina 1

Gina is now working at another bar and is no longer with LACEM, but still teaching her girls how to protect themselves from the varying occupational hazards that come with the job.

She took a break from the scene for awhile when she was in the hospital for diabetes. She showed me the patches on her lower leg that covered the gangrene.

We laughed about the sex video that made her famous.

“Ang daming nakakita pala nun! Mga pamangkin ko tumawag sa akin, ‘Tita, ikaw yun ah!’” [So many people saw that video. My nieces/nephews called when they say me!]

She said some comments were offensive, but she saw that the Internet had its own self-regulating mechanism and took much comfort knowing that many people come to her defense.

“That was my 15 minutes of fame!” she said, laughing and shaking her head at the memory.

She looked at me then for a long moment. “Ikaw, innocenteng innocente ka pa nun. Wala ka pang alam na alam sa Angeles,” she said, the tenderness and nostalgia in her voice overpowering the music in the bar. [You were so innocent then. You knew nothing about Angeles City.]

“Virgin pa, Mama Gina!” [Still a virgin, Mama Gina!]

And we both laughed. I guess we saw a bit of ourselves in each other. How we both were when we first came to this city where its angels use condoms and its mostly male visitors come to visit, filled with hope and expectation.

I realized that aside from the video, Gina and I didn’t have a photo together. I couldn’t leave this time without a photo.

We went outside and I asked the bouncer to please take a picture of me and “my Mama Gina”.

Gina posed gamely as I held on tightly.

The bouncer must have read more into my request than I thought; when he handed me back my phone, he said, “Ok na ok na kayo ngayon, Ma’am. Buti napabalik kayo ng Angeles, hindi nyo nakakalimutan Mama Gina mo.” [You’re looking well, ma’am. How nice of you to visit Angeles again and not forget your Mama Gina.]

I didn’t bother to correct him or explain. There was no need to. Gina Cancio will always be “my Mama Gina” to me.


[Dash of SAS] Birth control buffet

‘This birth control buffet takes your needs in consideration; condoms come in boxes of 12 and 24, giving you the option not to go back for seconds or thirds’

SAN FRANCISCO, USA – Kids drool in a candy store, some women swoon in a designer boutique, and certain men ogle fast cars – this sex and gender columnist’s fallopian tubes quiver in excitement whenever I visit a pharmacy or convenience store in the US.

As I walk through the doors of Duane Reade, CVS or Walgreen’s, I have to shush my lady parts. “Be still, my beating uterus,” I say as I feel it flip-flop as an irresistible pool lures me to the personal hygiene section.

Sandwiched between the shampoo and cosmetics aisle is a glistening treasure of condoms, spermicides, and lubricants – a birth control buffet that makes my vagina happy.

There are rows and rows of condoms in colorful packaging, in sizes that go up to XXL. It confirms what is hushed whispers and wicked conversations tempered by the coffee cup that is demurely brought to one’s lips. At last, a personal hygiene section that is smart enough to know that when it comes to anything that is worn on the body, size matters.

The sensitive types with allergies to latex, which most condoms are made of, have their own section (usually found in the bigger branches) of lambskin condoms.

This birth control buffet takes your needs in consideration; condoms come in boxes of 12 and 24, giving you the option not to go back for seconds or thirds. None of the awkward, stilted conversations with a pharmacist when you tell her you would like to buy condoms which usually come in packs of 3. None of the volley of questions, “how many?” or “which one?” accompanied by a knowing look that is prickly enough to kill even the most headstrong of desires.

If size or quantity, isn’t a consideration or a problem, there are ribbed, dotted and delayed action for those who appreciate that pleasure delayed does not equate to pleasure denied.

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Like the sauce that adds flavor to food or your favorite condiment, the personal lubricants are lined up next to the condoms. When used together, lube can give condoms a helping hand when going into tight spaces and also prevents condoms from tearing and breaking.

For older girls, there is are vaginal moisturizers for when, you know, like that shy but persistent lover, you begin to feel the first signs of menopause.

Back up plan and other helpful aids

Spermicide comes in film, gel, cream or oh! suppositories that are best when used with a condom, cervical cap or diaphragm.

And then finally, the last resort, the Morning After Pill. Until I had seen it up close, I thought it was an urban legend that girls from Europe and the US just made up.

Emergency contraceptives.
Emergency contraceptives.

The price tag of which was a reality check. Admittedly, it is a bit pricey (about $50) but you can never put a price tag on having a back up plan that you can pull out.

Thankfully, resourceful that we are, we have emergency contraception options available in the Philippines.

Back to reality

Like a love affair that is all too brief, my glee and giddiness plunge when I walk out the door. The infatuation turns to wistfulness and mild heartburn.

Globalization and the forces of market demand make it possible to get the same latte with half-half or Big Mac anywhere in the world. But I still have to travel thousands of miles to partake of this birth control buffet.

SASsy 6 Series: Sexy, SASsy, Safe Condom Sense

SASsy 6 Series: Sexy, SASsy, Safe Condom Sense

February isn’t just the hot month of L-O-V-E, it’s also National Condom Month. As this sizzling month comes to a close, here are 6 SASsy things you should do with condoms all through out the year.1. Check the expiration date before use. 

Condoms typically have a lifespan of five years. Only a diamond lasts forever, you know.

2. Store in a cool, dry place. A condom isn’t something that needs sun to grow. 

Don’t store in the glove compartment and guys, don’t keep one in your wallet which you inevitably sit on. Butt warmth is still warmth.

3. Get lubed! Lube is your friend. 

Put some at the tip of the condom before rolling on the penis for added pleasure. Use liberally while gettin’ some action as lubricant provides added security against condom breakage–told ya, lube is your friend.

4. Roll on the entire length of penis before any actual penetration takes place. (NOT after a few initial dips!)

An erect penis already has pre-ejaculation fluid (also known as pre-cum) which can get you pregnant or give you an STD.

5. Make sure you’re “ring-side”. A condom is not reversible. Make sure outter ring is on your side before you roll on. 

Try as you might, an inverted condom will not cover the entire length of a penis, and no, it has nothing to do with his size.

6. Trash the old stash. 

Throw away any condoms that you haven’t used in 3 months or more even if they haven’t expired. Better to be safe than….

Oh, and please be pleasurably polite: Wrap your used condom in a tissue and throw in a garbage can. : )

A SASsy reminder: Correct and consistent use of condoms is your best form of protection against mistimed pregnancy AND STD infection so be sexy, SASsy, safe all the time.

Sex and Spirituality: Using art and contraceptives to teach sexual health


Ms. Anna R. Oposa
Project Manager
ART-H Mandala Contest
[email protected]


(Quezon City, Philippines—December 14, 2011) Sex and Sensibilities (SAS), in partnership with DKT Reproductive Health (Frenzy Condoms and Filipinay), held a mandala art making contest using contraceptives at the University of the Philippines-Diliman.

Over fifty (50) students attended the ART-H Primer, a sexual health workshop and mandala making orientation, in Palma Hall. The participants then created mandalas using Frenzy condoms and birth control pills provided by DKT-Reproductive Health.

UP students at work

Utilizing the power of social media, the students’ designs and messages on key topics such as reproductive health and informed choice went viral on Facebook and Twitter. The project stimulated a lively discussion among the social networks. The use of contraceptives as art to communicate pressing issues also received a positive response from the public.

The UP Samahan sa Agham Pampulitika landed in 3rd place and received P10,000 in cash prize for their work entitled, “Beyond pills and condoms: EQUALITY and UNDERSTANDING.” The UP Artists’ Circle Sorority placed second and received P12,000 for their mandala called, “Give life without losing yours.” The grand prize was awarded to the UP Visual Communication students from the College of Fine Arts. Their artwork received P15,000, and an additional P2,000 from the Democratic Socialist Women of the Philippines for the best tagline, “Safety in Diversity.”

“Safety in Diversity” by the UP Visual Communication Students

The word “mandala” is Sanskrit for both “circle” and “center.” Mandalas are reflections of the spiritual self because they offer a unique and powerful way to self-discovery and healing through the use of imagery, symbolism, color and balance.

This project was supported by the UP-Diliman based network, RH AGENDA (Reproductive Health and Gender Advocates Movement) and sponsored by DKT Reproductive Health, manufacturer of Frenzy condoms and Filipinay line of contraceptive pills.


Sex and (SAS) is a non-profit website committed to improving the level of understanding of sexual reproductive health rights among Filipinos through the dissemination of accurate, practical and factual information on STI/HIV prevention and population and development in governance. SAS open to all, and is represented in other online media outlets, including popular social media networks Facebook and Twitter.

Winners of the ART-H Mandala Making Contest

We are pleased to announce the winners of the SAS ART-H Mandala Making Contest! The scores were based on the judges’ evaluation, Likes on the SAS Facebook page and attendance during the ART-H Primer. The respective taglines and statements were also taken into consideration.

And now, the works and statements of the winners:

3rd Place – UP Samahan sa Agham Pampulitika

Beyond pills and condoms: EQUALITY and UNDERSTANDING”


Understanding, awareness and women empowerment: these are the three essential factors needed to realize the passing of the Reproductive Health Bill, which this mandala promotes.

The lotus at the core, made from the male and female insignia, signifies the need for UNDERSTANDING, which is essential to the success of the RH Bill.

The outward pointing motif calls to mind the need to spread AWARENESS in the issue of RH.

And finally, the numerous faces of women in the mandala calls us to recognize WOMEN EMPOWERMENT.

These 3 elements combine to create a powerful visual message that calls us to pass the RH Bill and address the RH issue now

2nd Place – UP Artists’ Circle Sorority

“Give life without losing yours.”


This mandala as a whole represents significance fo women in their responsibility and capability to give continuation to the circle of life, in which they behold their beauty as a provider and nurturer.

The inverted triangle symbolizes the female genitalia and the three spirals symbolize women’s omnipotent power. These are surrounded by blossoming flowers that represent the blossoming of women and their potentials.

The maple leaves connote the sweetness that new life brings and at the same time, the openness to sexual pleasure through responsible and safe actions.

The condoms used to beautify the mandalas signify that men and women complement each other in order to create beauty in life.

1st Place – UP Visual Communication students, College of Fine Arts

“Safety in diversity.”

At the very center of our mandala is a triskel. These three circles connected to each other is a common element of the traditional mandala. For this specific piece, it symbolizes the three kinds of gender preferences. Straight males are symbolized by a ♂, straight females are symbolized by a ♀ and other sexual preferences combine the two symbols.

Around the triskel are “feathers.” Feathers constitute wings and wings are symbols of freedom. The central and supporting elements combined deliver the advocacy for freedom of choice in sexual preference.

At the middle of the triskel are random dots, with one red dot at the middle. This red dot symbolizes the chance of getting sexually transmitted diseases. Despite the freedom, there is still a risk. To prevent these risks from emerging, the red dot is surrounded with several contraceptives.

Our mandala recognizes the different sexual preferences of people but still reminds them of always being SAFE.

The prize for the best tagline also goes to the UP Vis Com group: “Safety in Diversity.”


The groups will be awarded when classes resume on the second week of November.

We would like to thank our judges: Dr. Eloi Hernandez of the UP College of Arts and Letters, Ms. Beth Angsioco of the Democratic Socialist Women of the Philippines, Mr. Red Tani of the Filipino Freethinkers and Mr. Carlos Celdran of Celdran Tours.

We would also like to thank our sponsor, DKT-Reproductive Health (Frenzy Condoms and Filipinay birth control pills), and our UP-based partner, RH AGENDA.

Mandalas from the SAS ART-H Contest

Due to unfavorable weather conditions, we had to move the contest proper to Monday, October 3. The UP students were such troopers. They arrived armed with sketches, additional research, extra adhesives and lots of ideas. Their designs were inspired from what they learned at the ART-H Primer, where Sex and Sensibilities gave a sexual health workshop and Prof. John Paul “Lakan” Olivares delivered a mandala making workshop.

The UP students created their final designs using condoms and pills based on what they learned from the primer and explain the relationship between their designs and related issues on informed choice, reproductive health, gender equality, etc.

After three hours of cutting, gluing and working together, they came up with the following products:

UP Samahan sa Agham Pampulitika

UP Artists’ Circle Sorority

UP Circle of Industrial Engineering Majors

College of Fine Arts Visual Communication students

UP Association of Political Science Majors

UP Social Science and Philosophy Student Council

You may read the groups’ respective explanations AND vote for your favorite mandala by clicking “Like” in this album. Make sure you “Like” the Sex and Sensibilities page first! Behind the scenes pictures here.

Many thanks to our sponsor, DKT Reproductive Health and our UP-based partner RH AGENDA for making this possible!