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Every love story begins with a “boy meets girl.” However, in real life, the story doesn’t always end with a “they lived happily ever after.” Sometimes, the love story ends with boy and girl going their separate ways.

Breakups aren’t normally easy to go through, especially when you were really in love. But it happens to the best of us. The question is: What are you going to do about it? Go on an alcohol binge? Eat all the ice cream and chocolate you can? Cry your eyes out and lose all your will to live? Swear off love for good? Absolutely not! The SASsy girl knows that she can come out of a bad breakup, hopeful rather than bitter and stronger, rather than defeated. Here’s a SASsy playlist to get yourself started on that road of breakup therapy:

1. “Survivor” by Destiny’s Child

I’m a survivor. I’m not gonna give up. I’m not gonna stop. I’m gonna work harder. I’m gonna make it.

These lines from Destiny’s Child’s “Survivor” make it a great breakup anthem. Belting out these lyrics is enough to enable anyone suffering from heartache to be strong. But it’s really the core message of this song that earns it a spot on our playlist: the message of resilience – specifically, of being able to bounce back and come out all right after heartache.

A bad breakup doesn’t mean you should be crumbling down along with your failed relationship. Instead of spending endless hours feeling sorry for yourself and wondering what went wrong, take this opportunity to focus. Make plans. Reach your goals. Surround yourself with friends and family. And while you try to mend your broken heart, never talk trash about your ex – even if he did drop you like a hot potato. Be the better person. Hold no bitterness and wish him nothing but the best in life: success and happiness, even if you’re no longer part of his future.

Most importantly, do remember the truth these lines bear: After all of the darkness and sadness soon comes happiness. If I surround myself with positive things, I’ll gain prosperity.

2. “Irreplaceable” by Beyonce

If your man is being untrue to you, you should kick him out of your life right now. You’ve got to let him know that you’re not going to take his crap lying down. And if he beats you to the clock, don’t grovel; let him leave.

Take your cue from Elin Nordegren, Tiger Wood’s ex-wife. When she found out her husband cheated on her, she didn’t stick around pining for her lost love, she left him instead. As Beyonce’s song would tell you: guys can come and go. But your self-respect? Now that’s irreplaceable!

I could have another you in a minute. Matter of fact he’ll be here in a minute… Baby I won’t shed a tear for you. I won’t lose a wink of sleep. ‘Cos the truth of the matter is, replacing you is so easy. 

3. “So Yesterday” by Hilary Duff

No matter how bad the breakup was – think Jack Berger’s breakup post it note to Carrie Bradshaw – how you will come out of it is entirely up to you. This is the message of the song. Choose to move on, and you will be able to. In no time at all, you’ll be able to say “He’s so yesterday!”

Take it from Hilary Duff herself. This once voted female hottie at the Teen Choice Awards has had her own dose of bad breakups. She once dated Aaron Carter who turned out to be seeing her fellow Disney star, Lindsay Lohan at the same time! Being the celebrity she is, the media latched onto the scoop. Talk about a double whammy, right? But, instead of letting her break up affect her negatively, she held her head high and focused on her music career. Now, she even has a man showering her with all his love and support.

If it’s over, let it go. And come tomorrow it will all seem so yesterday. So yesterday. Haven’t you heard that I’m gonna be okay?

4. “Over It” by Katherine McPhee

When the person who breaks our heart is someone we really loved, it’s solely the good stuff we tend to hold onto. But doing so can only make it harder for you to get on with your life. Next time, if you feel like looking back on your relationship, remember the bitter memories, too. You might just realize why he’s not the one for you. Let Katherine’s soft crooning in the background keep you company while you embrace the song’s message wholeheartedly.

Wanting you to be wanting me, no that ain’t no way to be… Hurt at first, a little bit but now I’m so over. So over it. I’m so over it.

5. “Wasted” by Carrie Underwood

If you’ve been burned, it’s easy to think about giving up on love for good, but that’s not the right way to go. You’re only depriving yourself of the chance to find real love and happiness. Carrie sings about learning to break free and taking risks to become a better you. Instead of shutting people out of your life, accept your breakup for what it is: another finished chapter of your life. Give your failed relationship one last cry, then pick yourself up and get your life back on track. With Wasted on your breakup playlist, you’ll truly feel empowered.

I don’t wanna spend my life jaded, waiting to wake up one day and find that I’ve let all these years go by wasted. I don’t wanna keep on wishing, missing… I ain’t spending no more time wasted.

6. “Fighter” by Christina Aguilera

When you find out the guy you thought was “The One” is actually a lying, cheating jerk, it’s easy to feel hate towards him. It’s also easy to give in to heartbreak – to picture yourself lying in bed, wallowing in misery. But Christina’s song “Fighter” says you can’t let him keep you down. As the title of the song implies, you’ve got to fight through the pain and anger. Instead of hating him, thank him for making you stronger and wiser.

The road to recovery isn’t easy, but with a very powerful break up anthem like Christina’s Fighter, you’ll be raring to get through it.

It makes me that much stronger. Makes me work a little bit harder. Makes me that much wiser… Made me learn a little bit faster. Made my skin a little bit thicker. It makes me that much smarter. So thanks for making me a fighter.

7. “Walk Away” by Kelly Clarkson

A healthy relationship is supposed to make you feel secured and happy, but sometimes when you’re so in love, you can be blinded by your feelings; you end up failing to see the flaws in your relationship. Even when you’re unsure if he really loves you, you remain attached anyway because you’re afraid to rock the boat.

Are you gonna fight for me? Die for me? Live and breathe for me? Do you care for me? ‘Cause if you don’t then just leave.

The lyrics above speak of a challenge. It’s challenging you to find out what the real deal between the two of you is. It’s challenging you not to settle for someone less than you deserve. It’s challenging you to have the courage to make your man show you that he really wants to be with you, and only you. If he’s not willing to be there for you 100%, then you’re better off without him.

I wanna love. I want a fire. To feel the burn. My desires I wanna man by my side. Not a boy who runs and hides.

8. “Better in Time” by Leona Lewis

The pain of a breakup can be overwhelming. You wonder how a relationship could possibly be so easy to put aside, especially when you’ve been together for years. The sad truth, however, is that, sometimes, love slips away. There’s nothing wrong about mourning the love you’ve lost, but in order for you to start your journey of healing, you’ve got to learn let it go. While you’re at it, let Leona Lewis’ song comfort you with these soothing lines:

Even though I really loved you, I’m gonna smile ‘cos I deserve to. It’ll all get better in time… No matter how hard it is I’ll be fine without you.

9. “Rise” by Gabrielle

Another great addition to your playlist is Rise from Gabrielle. A lot of ladies going through a breakup will surely be able to relate to this. The song is all about how one stumbles and falls down after she is separated from that special person in her life, and rises back up again. Even if your heart has been shattered into a million pieces, even if he won’t be there to catch you anymore, in time, you will be able to rise again.

It’s gonna take time I know. But I’ll get over you. Look at my hopes. Look at my dreams. I’m building bridges from the scene. Now I’m ready to rise again.

10. “What I Did For Love” by Lea Michele, Glee

When love is gone, you just have to deal with it and move forward — it’s the only way to go. As the song says, what matters is that you loved him with all your heart; there’s no room for regret.

Gone. Love is never gone. As we travel on, love’s what we’ll remember.