This article was written by Ana Santos and was originally published in Female Network.com.
Female Network, courtesy of SexAndSensibilities.com, showcases 8 men mature and secure enough to keep their women safe with the love glove.
Last-minute condom negotiation (or even not-so-last-minute discussions over whether or not your man should wear a “love glove”) can get in the way of a good thing. When it comes to excuses about not using a condom, women have heard it all—from pleas about reduced pleasure to promises of happy ever after.
But not all men are created equal. You can and may cross paths with a gems of a guy, one of those hot men who know better. When it comes to safer sex and equal responsibility when it comes to birth control, these boys know how to be good in bed.
In celebration of these enlightened males, SexAndSensibilities.com, via Female Network, presents this safe sex awareness campaign: Real Men Wear Condoms. Have a look-see at the hotties in the slide show below, and learn about a single fact that simply ups their hotness level: they’re passionate about keeping the act of giving in to passion as safe as possible, not just for themselves, but for the women they’re with as well.
SAM YG, SLICK RICK, AND TONY TONI
DJs for Boys Night Out on Magic 89.9
If you love listening to their bad boy locker room humor, imagine spending some time with them in a motel room! Jabs about penis size, lasting power, and making the ladies happy are all thrown together in quick-witted banter. It’s clear that, for Boys Night Out DJs Sam YG, Tony Toni, and Slick Rick, being suave and smooth is synonymous to using the love glove.
“It’s just second nature to me,” says Tony Toni. Having studied in Canada, he was exposed to the importance of safer sex at an early age. He is somewhat surprised though by how some girls are the ones who actually don’t want their guys to wear condoms.
But Tony Toni has a quick solution to that particular dilemma. “I tell them I have pre-mature ejaculation. I’m a premmie,” he says with his typical sardonic humor.
“If you can’t control it, at least be responsible about it. There is also a growing number of STDs that are spreading, and a lot of young guys and girls seem to be ignorant about the whole thing. As they say, spread the love, not the virus,” says Sam YG in a serious tone, but with a cocky nod of his head and a knowing look.
“It’s not just about responsibility, but also about trust,” Slick Rick adds. “When you become intimate with someone, you somehow entrust [her with] not just your body but also your health. The rising number of HIV infections, the huge number of single mothers—you know, these are real issues, and issues that listeners ask us to talk about.”
They all agree that boys will be boys just as much as girls just wanna have fun, but you have to do all of that responsibly. That’s the condom imperative.
Sam Fogg found his way to the Philippines while backpacking around the world. He liked it so much that he just decided to stay and has been here in the 19 months since his arrival.
Sam says that he finds the Philippines a bit of a juxtaposition. “It seems—or it is—a very conservative country, but at the same time, sex is everywhere: in billboards, magazines, everywhere.”
This is in direct contrast to the attitude towards sexual health that he grew up in Manchester, England. “Condoms, getting tested, are all part of being in a relationship,” the 24-year-old says matter-of-factly.
“You know, back when I was 17 and was in my first serious relationship, I came home one day and found a brown paper bag like the ones you would get from the toffee shop in my room from my Mum.” Surprised to get a sweet treat, he opened the bag and was even more surprised to find condoms.
And this isn’t an isolated instance, Sam tells us. “Until now, my Mum regularly sends me care packages from home filled with my favorite things: tea bags, some chocolate, and, always, condoms”—just some things to remind Sam that he is never really all that far from home.
ALEX VON RAMM
When Alex was asked if he would participate in this campaign, he readily said yes, and he confessed to feeling somewhat surprised–surprised that there was a need for it at all.
“I was surprised that people still had to make campaigns to persuade people to use condoms,” Alex explains.
He goes on to recount how, when he was growing up in Germany, sex education was taught as early as Grade 3 and refresher courses were taught every year. Topics like the hazards of getting a disease or getting someone pregnant were openly discussed.
“We had quite a lot of fun in the class. We were taught that it is risky to have sex without a condom unless you made the decision to have a child and were checked for diseases.”
Mature for his 18 years and simply straightforward about the subject, Alex says, “I don’t feel embarrassed at all when buying condoms. I had one interesting conversation with one cashier who asked me why I was buying a particular brand and even encouraged me to buy another. When I asked her why she liked the other brand better, she just giggled.”
There’s no doubt that 34-year-old Harry Tan is a fan of the love glove.
Whether it means taking his clothes off to publicly declare his support for condom use like he did during World AIDS Day 2009 or just supporting campaigns like this one, Harry will take the time to promote safer sex.
“I was maybe 14 when my Dad first had ‘the talk’ with me,” Harry says, recalling the father and son talk that set the tone for his adolescence and, later on, adulthood.
“He ingrained in me that I should only start a family when I’m ready and [that] I should take precautions. Later on, I realized the deeper meaning of what my dad told me—you should take control of your destiny, your life.”
Because of this talk, Harry says he has always thought that using condoms was no big deal. “Buying condoms and using them are nothing to be squeamish about. At a certain age, it’s likely that both of you have been in relationships before; [condom use is] part of showing that you are also looking out for your partner.”
“I’m an advocate of safer sex,” says 20-year-old financial analyst. “I really believe it affects population and impacts the economic growth or decline of a country.”
Xander studied international relations in college. But while he got his scholarly knowledge about population and development from books, he learned its hard lessons from real life. “I have a number of friends who had kids before they turned 20. Now that they have kids, that’s when they think about using a condom or regret that they didn’t use one. They go for withdrawal, pero mahirap na yun (but it’s tough), you’re not sure.”
Xander also explains how he’s heard that some believe that a man’s apparent skill at practicing the withdrawal method, or coitus interruptus, is something to show off about. “Like your techniques,” he says. “[Knowing when to pull out] makes you good in bed.”
But, young as he may be, he is under no such illusions. “Birth control is a shared responsibility. My friends who are girls have been buying birth control pills since they were in high school, and they’re right to do so. Why would you put your future in the hands of another?”
Student and part-time actor
To Dale, a man’s willingness to buy his own condoms—even when faced with the judgmental attitude of others—is a sign of maturity. And he should know; looking “barely legal” as he does, this 20-year-old’s jailbait appeal gets him his share of looks when he buys condoms.
“Yeah, I’ve gotten disdainful looks from some cashiers when buying condoms, especially the kind of older ones,” Dale admits.
Yet Dale ignores the sidelong looks and focuses on the bigger picture. Matter-of-factly, he has this to say about that kind of reception: “But who cares? Why should I let her judgment cloud mine? I, along with my partner, will benefit from using condoms—not the cashier, or anyone else, for that matter—so it shouldn’t matter.”
Having lived in Denmark from the time he was 15 till he was 18, Dale says, “Sex education was something that was talked about very openly.” But it was his aunt who gave him ‘the talk’ about the need to use condoms.
“She was really cool and hip, so it wasn’t awkward to hear that from her. Now, if it were my mom, that would have been awkward,” Dale says, laughing.
But on a more serious note, Dale says, “Any kind of relationship comes with responsibility and maturity. Protecting yourself and your partner from disease or from getting pregnant is all part of it. Sometimes we just want the relationship, but not the responsibility. Using condoms is simply just the mature thing to do.”
How’s that for buying your own condoms being a right of passage?[?]