Everybody can have a wish to have sex with ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend. What does it mean? Should you do it? What is important to think about? You’ll find the answers in this article.
So if you want to have sex with the person with whom you broke up, it can be an evidence that your feelings are still alive. It’s not strange cause you know each other very good and were together many times.
But before making the final step understand one thing: it’s just nothing more than sex. You’ll go to bed not with your loved one, it will be somebody completely different. You’ll have no love, nor affection, nor obligation – only sex. Are you ready for such kind of relationship? If it doesn’t frighten you and you are sure that you won’t poke your wounds, still don’t hurry and think about the next subjects.
Who initiated the break up?
If it was not your idea to break up, you still suffer and your wish to have sex is a hope to restore the relationship. It’s not the best idea! Sex with your ex throws you back and delay your movement. You need to abstract emotionally from the past relationship and move further, not to cling to your past.
Why did you break up?
It’s one thing if you broke up after a usual argument. And it’s another one if you had serious reasons or controversy. Do you really think sex will help? Leave your empty hopes and be honest with yourself. Do you want sex only or do you need a rematch?
Is your ex involved in new relationship?
First, trying to destroy with sex something that can lead to new love is immoral. The second, you must care about safety. The fact that you know each other for so long and trusted each other doesn’t mean that after the split up your partner didn’t have sex be it serious or a one-night-stand. Security measures must as serious as with a new partner.
Do you plan to forget everything connected with the past relationship?
If the split up was painful for you, you’d better forget about sex. Any reminder about the past will poke the wound and makes suffering stronger. The more place you give for your past, the less energy you have for new happy life.
Do you respect yourself enough?
You split up and you had reasons for it. In this case it doesn’t matter who wanted to finish the relationship, be it you or your partner. Hardly this man is worth of your attention, because reasons of split up are still actual!
What do you really want?
Try to answer as honestly as possible. It’s unlikely that you need sex so much that you are ready to have it with just anybody, even with the person who hurt you. In any case remember: sex with your ex won’t return your past relationship and won’t resurrect your love.
Of course there are situations when sex with your previous partner can be a good idea. For example if you parted on good terms, without arguments and stayed good friends, keeping positive attitude to each other. It’s also possible that both of you realized that you lost your temper and want to give another chance for yourselves. In this case sex won’t be enough: you’ll have to discuss and realize the reasons of your break up.
Once again: making a decision, be honest with yourself and your partner.